Life With My Husband and Q&A

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Life with him lately has been different. There have been lots of adjustments made, and some sacrificing. After Joel finished his last exam on May 25, he has been very available, which I am not used to at all. When Joel was still in school, my week nights consisted off cooking (solo), walking Rayne (both), catching the bachelorette (solo), blogging (solo, duh), and then TV show again (usually solo, sometimes both). So, I've had a pretty individual lifestyle the past 10 months.

I find myself now compromising on TV shows and watching the Bachelorette on my laptop if I missed an episode. We are always up for Law & Order SVU and Criminal Minds, it's the only shows we both agree on. With one television at the moment, I now find myself antsy and anxious about if I will miss my show or not. It's only fair to share since Joel consequently forgot how to use a remote in the past 10 months, so I feel like he has more say in what we watch. But it is still weird. I'm not a big TV junkie anyway, so if I miss a show, it's not that big of a deal as long as I can watch the re-run online.

Arguing. Now that we can pay attention to each other full time, we find ourselves getting in disagreements about the most petty and stupid things. Such as... (no joke) who fed the dog last. I mean, really? We've adapted since and are learning to just let go of things and remember the things that do matter, so that helps. But, really, it's been quite an adjustment.

On Blogging... Since I am not a TV junkie, my favorite thing to do is read and catch up on blogs and blog about my own life. I could read and write for hours while Joel studied, without caring how much time I spent doing it.But, now I need to monitor it. The past week and a half I have not been "done" on time and usually he is ready to hang out and I've still got to write up a post. This is not going to work well. I've got to organize my time better and make some sacrifices.

I was so excited about this summer and happy that he will just be working 30 hours a week at a structured job (job, what is that?) during the day, leaving the evenings all for us! I don't want to look back and realize I put other priorities first such as television and blogging. I will never get this time back. I can honestly tell y'all the harsh reality of what I'm preparing for... That is, this is the last summer Joel will ever have time off for the next probably 10 years. Unless everything goes perfectly, and he is able to take 2 months off before his graduation-start of residency, this is it. There are no justifying words that make me feel better about residency being a 6 day 80 hour work week. And his clinical years which are his 3rd and 4th year (he is now a 2nd year) are practically a residency preview. So, this lifestyle will be here in less than a year now.

With all of this said, I just ask for your patience and support during this time. Lately I have been slacking on responding to comments with questions, and I've flagged every one of them so I can eventually get to responding to them. Until the middle of August, I will be in a different element. But, this may not be a bad thing. Our life this summer may become really interesting, and may better my blog writing and story telling. I don't want this to be a negative thing, just want to be open about where my priorities are during these next few months. We are also moving in a few short weeks, so I will be busy busy very soon. I will also need lots of guest posts (email me).

Wow. Longest post ever. Thanks for reading, and being patient with me during this time. I love my followers and your ongoing support and could never forget how much you all mean to me.

Also, I want to compile some ?s for a Q&A ! So many of you ask me questions all the time, and I'd love to have them all in one post. Do you have any particular questions about me, my hubby, for my hubby, about Rayne? The only boundary is to be respectful or I'll just press that delete button!
Leave your questions below in the comment form.
You can post anonymous if you'd like.
I know sometimes it's hard to ask certain questions that you want answered! 

 We really are enjoying our time together, can't you tell ?



17 comments:

  1. Oh sweetpea! Dont apologize for putting your husband first! It is the one most important part of being a wife. He is your partner, your life mate, your best friend and it's our jobs as wives to make sure our husbands remain the number one priority in our lives. When a partner, whether it be us or the hubby, is put on the back burner and not given the attention they/we deserve, that is when things can really strain a marriage! Don't feel guilty for slacking on the blog community, you dont have to answer to us and you certainly arent married to us either! Keep your focus on your hubby and continue making your relationship and partnership everything it needs to be, and ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS keep your faith! xoxo!

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  2. I completely understand. I don't know how much blogging I'll get in this summer with the hubby starting med school in the fall. I'm trying to put my priorities in order as well... when I start to think "oh I didn't blog today" or "oh dang, I haven't blogged about that yet", I just think to myself you know, it's really not a big deal. My blog will always be here, but time won't be. As for a question for your Q&A, this may be a little too personal, so you don't have to answer, but what kind of job will your hubby have this summer? We've been discussing what my husband will do for a job next summer and we honestly have no clue!

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  3. I think this is such a sweet and wise decision on your part, and I believe this will be a great summer for you two!

    xo

    -Nicholl

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  4. I think this is a great plan. Don't sweat the little arguments and schedule changes. I completely understand. I'm so used to being independent because of the long hours at work my DrH has, that when he does get time off, it takes a few days to adjust. And you will. And then when he goes back to working a zillion hours, it will take time to adjust back to being so independent. *sigh* such is the life of us Dr. wives.
    (sorry for the poor grammar, but it was a long day at work and I'm too tired to make corrections. hehe)

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  5. One of my newest goals is to be present AND be a blogger. I feel guilty when I look back and realize how "off" I was for an entire night, because I was taking care of blogging business. I totally understand where you're coming from!

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  6. You are so right!! You have to take time to spend every minute with Joe this summer. This blogging thing will alwasy be here! You have to live YOUR life...I am honestly feeling the same way lately. Just might be going on a 2 month hiatus here soon!
    xo,
    Shanna

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  7. Wosah.. 10 years of that?! I will pray for ya both… I can’t even begin to imagine how difficult that adjustment will be. But it CAN BE DONE! Take advantage of all the little moments!

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  8. You couldn't be more right! You should be soaking up and enjoying every little minute with your husband. We aren't going anywhere, and y'all deserve this time!

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  9. Britt, I think I knew you were a med-school wife, but it didn't hit home till I read this post. Can I just say, I Feel You!! My husband is prepping for the Step and he has been at home Way more often than during his first 4 semesters. I'm still fighting the battle of it driving me crazy, but it's getting easier. It's been nice to watch movies with him again, and spend Sundays together. I know I will be sad when he starts rotations & residency.. so you are right, I need to really appreciate this extra time we've been given.

    Thank you for the reminder. :)

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  10. YAY! Im so glad you found my blog so that I could find YOURS!!! And since I'm new to your blog, I have lots of questions, and I'm sure some have these have already been addressed but maybe it'll give you some good material for your Q & A post:

    1. What do you do for a living?
    2. What are your guilty pleasures?
    3. How do you like your coffee?

    xo

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  11. I hear you! My husband works a crazy schedule and when I was unemployed I had so much free time to myself. Now that I'm back working and he works so much, I sometimes feel like I need a little "me" time! But then at the same time every free minute I have with him, I want to spend with him. You will find a balance and you will enjoy your time together. Because being together is the most important...even if you aren't physically together.

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  12. Oh girl I feel your pain lol, that's how we are when J is off. It's easy to get use to being alone, and readjusting is always so ridiculous.

    Here's my question: What is your favorite store, restaurant, and activity to do in NOLA?

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  13. hang in there, britt! you totally need to take advantage of this time with your hubby - even if it does mean one or two fewer posts per week. your readers will still be here! :)

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  14. Sounds like you've got your priorities straight! Quality time with family is always #1! Hope you enjoy this extra time with your hubby!

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  15. I know EXACTLY what you mean. My boyfriend is a Med student at St. George University. They do their first 2 years of book work in Grenada, West Indies. He's home for the summer and I feel like I can't do enough stuff with him! :) Just want to be with him all the time, because come August he will be gone again for 4 months.

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  16. Hey ok so this is a little random and I just started following your blog (i can't get over how creepy this sounds, haha) but I feel like I can ask you this question(s), what was the long distance relationship like? and in highschool to?! Did anyone ever discourage you from staying with your highschool sweetheart? So I am clearly going somewhere with this, haha... I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we met in highschool, and now we are off to different universities, I wouldn't say I am worried but I have never been in a long distance relationship before, so I don't know what to expect, any tips/advice? haha! Thank you :)

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  17. Hey ok so this may be a little random and I just started following your blog (I will never get over how creepy that sounds, haha) but I feel like I can ask you this question anyways, what was the long distance relationship like? and in highschool to?! Did anyone ever discourage you from a long distance relationship or staying with your highschool sweetheart? Ok so I;m clearly going somewhere with this, haha. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and met my sophmore year of highschool. Now we are going to different universities; I wouldnt say I am worried about the distance but I have never been in a long distance relationship so I don't know what to expect exactly, so have any advice? thanks! :)

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